In 1994 the world was blessed with six people who were meant to come into our lives to teach us all we needed to know as we live on this big blue marble called Earth. Those six people are named, Monica, Rachel, Phoebe, Ross, Chandler and Joey. Unless you have lived under a rock you know those six people oh so very well. I personally decided to call them MY personal friends and learn from their lives as I watched those amazing ten years of television unfold. Here is what I learned from each one of them.
Monica taught me that is totally okay to be a clean freak. Let’s be honest NO ONE likes to hang out with a slob. Gross right? Sure, she may have taken it to a whole other level when vacuumed her vacuum. However, I love to hangout at a pal’s house and not feel the dreaded dust bunnies or moldy old sandwich under the couch cushion. Monica also taught me that true love can develop from friendship. She and Chandler taught us that friends can fall in love. So you just never ever know what will become from friendships. Ooo lala.
Rachel taught me that it’s ok to NOT marry the person everyone expected you to marry. I too, like Rachel backed out of an upcoming wedding (not at the actual alter.) and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. I ended up finding my husband YEARS later and I am very glad that decision took me to where I was meant to be. I found my “Ross” and it was worth heartache and wait. I also learned from Rachel that it is ok to be on your own. When I first moved to Los Angeles I was terrified. I felt like a fish out of water. I too waitressed for a few years and that taught me to be more brave and sociable and now I am on the path that I feel I was meant to be on.
Pheobe taught me that you should always be yourself even when people think that you are a bit “odd.” Who cares what others think. Never let anyone make you feel like you can’t be who you were created to be. Phoebe’s quirkiness made my feel like I too can be that myself. I enjoy life more when I can be a little weird at times. Life was meant to be lived FREE. So be free like Phoebe. (Hey that rhymes) Run through the park like a wild person, sing silly songs about smelly animals and create joy to those around you.
I learned from Ross that even though life throws you a few obstacles, you can overcome and turn those moments into something beautiful. He was left by the women he chose to be with forever, who was pregnant with his baby! He could of chose to let that overwhelm him. Instead he chose to “grab a spoon” and move forward. That lead to him having the “unconventional” family life, yet he loved his family with all of his being. He loved Ben and Emma so much. Even though someone important to him (Carol) turned his life upside down he pursued his dream of finding true love and in the end it worked out for him. His family was the “new normal” and he made it work seamlessly. I have to say that he also taught me that there it a such thing as too much hair gel. I mean, really it was just too much, Ross.
Chandler taught me that life needs laughter. You should always have someone in your life that makes you laugh. If you happen to be that person in someone’s life that is wonderful. If not…. find that person! I especially learned from Chandler that is it is ok to start over in life. He quit a job he hated to pursue something he could be passionate about. In the last year I too made a job switcheroo and started over. It was scary and exhilarating at the same time. He taught me that there is no sense in going to a job you are not satisfied with every day. Find something you love and you will (almost) never dread work.
Joey taught me to never give up on your goals and dreams. Even after he was fired for being a “butt double” for Al Pacino he never gave up. He thought about it a few times, but his friends reminded him to keep going and so he did. If he had given up he never would have played Dr. Drake Ramoray, which took him on a fun acting journey. What I loved most about Joey is that even when he fell down an elevator shaft, he managed to find his way back to that very show that killed him off. He never ever gave up. I also learned that wearing maternity pants is a great idea when eating big meals like Thanksgiving dinner.
The most important lesson I learned my from my F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is that all you really need is a core group of people who love you. You don’t need a billion friends. If you can count the number of best friends on one hand you are a blessed person. Oh….and one more thing. Ross and Rachel were CLEARLY on a break. (insert winky face)
What has F.R.I.E.N.D.S. taught you???
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